kick him to the curb girl

Unequally Yolked

(Yes I’m aware of the correct spelling of Yoked but obvi there’s a theme here)

I ended a relationship recently because we were not working together to get the task done but rather working at odds with each other. We did not have the same beliefs, values, or even morals, we were working against each other instead of together.

He thought things were perfect because they were working in his favor all while I was a miserable mess because whenever I expressed my feelings they were dismissed or either comforted with apologies or promises that were never going to happen.

Sometimes in relationships you try to hold onto what you have to avoid conflict.

But when resentment comes into play it makes it hard to look at a person and love them like you once did.

I found myself in this situation when I allowed the person I was in a relationship take charge of the skillet which lead me into a scrambled mess ultimately making me choose between myself or the relationship and at the end I chose me.

I wanted this person to do better for himself, to love me unconditionally, to respect me but instead once again he fed me Lies, deceit, disrespect and the list goes on.

I am not sure why I felt guilt for letting him go when I know I deserve better.

If you listen to his side I will look like the villain but the reality is I was a victim. A victim of a narcissistic omelet who refused therapy so he spurt all his anger onto me and it wasn’t physical it was emotional, he was controlling me mentally and emotionally.

The moment I let him go I experienced victory and blessings true wins. God would not let me be great unless I let him go.

I tried to be his motivation and inspiration. However, he had his own agenda so anything I said went into one ear and out the other.

He made continuous excuses of his behavior. I’m so glad this time that it wasn’t years later that I build up the courage to step away. 6 months was enough time for me to recognize that we were just not equally yolked and it was time for me to take care of me.

You know what I always say

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

Boss vs. Leader

A Boss demands, commands, uses people and blames others. A boss in the relationship has nothing to show for and is unstable.

A Leader on the other hand asks, takes responsibility and shows how it’s done. A leader in the relationship has their own everything and offers stability.

I’ve been hearing a lot about black women not wanting to be submissive which is completely inaccurate.

The truth is women love being submissive to a man that knows how to lead. Women are exhausted from having to carry the load and want a man to provide security knowing that if anything happens he got us.

I was in a relationship in the past where the man was a Boss but he wasn’t Leader.

He talked a good game about what he wanted in his life and what he was gonna do but never took the steps necessary to make me feel secure by setting an example of being able to lead.

I was always the one that got shit done and as a woman I hated feeling like I was both the man and the woman in the relationship. Teamwork was definitely lacking.

He would ask for help with starting projects he was interested in but he never did the work to bring them to light. He demanded that I do all the work for the goals and passions he had of his own.

I stayed in the relationship because I believed I was doing the right thing by supporting him with his dreams and I didn’t want to be looked at by him as an unsupportive partner but after awhile I felt like all of my efforts were for nothing.

I am amazed at the number of women that exist that will settle for these types of men just to say they have a man. That’s just never been me I’d rather kiss a million frogs before I settle.

A word to Women, please love on yourself more and quit letting these suckas play with you!

Like I always say…

Y.O.L.K.

You only live knowingly

Why Omelet Him Go? Ie Imma Let Him Go

This is the post excerpt.

Driving from Utah with some friends we saw a post on Facebook that said Ghetto Word of the Day Omelet i.e. Imma let.

We thought this was hilarious so when coming up with my blog name my friend says Omelethimgo.

It couldn’t have been more perfect because Omelets have different ingredients some good some bad for you and I thought how fun it would be to have Omelet names for my different blogs referring to how my experiences have been with dating in Las Vegas and have you write your “Tasting Reviews” ie your thoughts on my blog

Stay tuned for my eggciting adventures of Omelethimgo Chronicles