Omelethimgo

The definition of sabotage is to deliberately destroy, damage, or obstruct something

Whew Chile being Quarantined can make one do things they would never do..Not working, not keeping yourself busy etc

A lot of us are suffering from severe anxiety and depression and we just aren’t sure what to do with this extra energy we have

Instead of doing something positive we are destroying our thoughts, decisions and relationships due to being over thinkers

Mental health isn’t something I thought that needed to be discussed in my household until recently dealing with my teenager and my own self sabotaging thoughts

Erratic behavior and doing things that can destroy relationships is not a good look especially when you love someone

I decided to write this because I was close to destroying a relationship with someone that is so special to me due to unexplained Erratic behavior

Before you act on something think about why, take a deep breath, find something to distract you from the negative thoughts

If you find you can’t do that then seek professional help

I know I will be

Y.O.L.K.

Mental Health is a real thing as You are your own worst enemy

So here I am years later after being single and celibate for 2 years before the love of my life returned to me

One day I will take the opportunity to tell you which Episode/Omelet this was but in the mean time I will just share this stage of my relationship

It’s been 2 months..almost 3 since we have been physically in the same space..This shit is hard!

The whole, taking the time to get to know each other while being committed at the same time.. I feel like when trying to communicate at times that I’m walking on eggshells bc men are just different..Especially when it comes to communicating

For some reason all the conversations you have had before making the next move in your relationship have been forgotten..

I guess you can say I’m at the “Hard Boiled” stage and the fact that I don’t wanna leave this Omelet for real but I do want to feel like I’m the water 💦 that hardens the egg..Like the most important thing to creating the hard boiled egg bc it can’t be done without water

When the conversation comes up about how I feel he takes it as conflict and it’s not a conflict at all it’s just sharing my feelings which are valid..

I do not want to feel this way on a weekly basis especially when I ask if this is to much for him the answer is always No..

I feel like I’m always walking on egg 🥚 shells just to express how I feel..

These are just my thoughts and nothing more

Y.O.L.K.

You only love knowingly

R Kelly Everything was definitely WRONG!!

With the latest Docu-Series about R Kelly scrambling around in the pan with these under aged girls it caused me to write this..So much discussion is happening about this that I felt the need to post about it..First I want to say that so many people involved in failed these girls..Whether it be friends, family, executives, authorities they failed them and that is the problem that I have with this whole ordeal..They all came together on National TV to out him versus banning together and take use of their time to Lawyer up and take him down. Yes I’m aware that he is now under investigation it that didn’t happen until after the Docu-Series..Everyone keeps saying “We need to stand up for our girls now but no one stood up for them while they were dealing with this..There were women that spoke out previously, he married a girl underaged, he pissed on a girl and there is video..Not only should he be held accountable but those who didn’t “Stand up and fight for them” should be held accountable as well..

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

It has been a journey for me with dating but lately my only time I have had is to focus on myself,

It’s been almost 1 month since I moved back home to the Bay Area and I got here and took off running immediately..I interviewed with several companies before I left Las Vegas and now I’m working for an amazing company in San Francisco and I’m here with my Family and nothing could make me happier.

I haven’t even had time to focus on dating because it’s just not something I’m even thinking about. I haven’t been able to record because my mic is packed up in storage but I can’t wait to get time to get back to it..

As soon as I’m adjusted to my new job, commute and work schedule I will be back on air

In the meantime…In the words of Lil Duval I’m Living my best Life and I ain’t going back n forth with you N****s lol

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

It took me a long time to realize that I can’t please everybody

Sometimes in life we have to make hard choices and some of those include taking care of us even though someone else prefers us to be there for them

If you aren’t happy or feeling good yourself, you can’t be there for someone else in the way that they need you to be

A lot of people stay in relationships because they care about what the other person might feel when you’re ready to walk away.

All you’re doing when you do that is hurt yourself because you’re not happy.

The one thing I know about pain is it is always replaced with Joy. It may not be instant but it will eventually come.

So if you’re in a relationship and you’re miserable and you know that you’ve tried enough to make something work and you know that the only thing that will make it better is for you to end it.

Then End it and have no regrets! Life is too precious to be miserable everyday of your Life

In fact you will be doing each other a favor

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

I changed my phone number at the beginning of 2018 so that I could rid of my weakness of answering my phone or responding to a text when an ex is on my line..

I had stopped utilizing Facebook messenger but I can still get he alerts so this week a few of my ex Omelets decided to hop in my inbox and tell me how Bomb I was and that they still Loved me and missed me and they wanted to see me Jokers!

Isn’t it funny how when you minding your business, drinking water 💦 and getting Healthier, Mind, Body and Soul your exes wanna act like they never had this before??

This how you met me and then you broke me down with stress worrying about y’all sorry ass cracked shells..

I’ve decided that I will no longer let anyone take me there anymore and if I feel negative vibes in anyway from someone new I’m out ASAP 🏃🏽‍♀️ I’m not sticking around for the lies and excuses because I love ME too much

New Phone 📱 Who Dis?

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

One of the things I hate is a Man with no conversation. When all he knows how to talk about is how beautiful and sexy I am and if I was his, what he would do to me

It’s a big turn off! Especially when their newly single and you found out they’ve been in a relationship for years prior to. Like what y’all been doing just watching TV and making kids? That’s Boring as Fuck!

Like you don’t have no hobbies, goals, dreams, aspirations, thoughts on society or politics? Favorite sports team ? You don’t like to travel?

I don’t need someone to continually tell me how beautiful I am and I’m sexy I already know this. I want to be stimulated by conversation that makes it feel like you Fucking my mind!

Everyone has dick or head to give. Hell I can play with my own damn self

I wanna see something different, I wanna learn about some shit I didn’t know about before I gave you my number

I recently had this happen to me and when I told the dude to talk to me about something else he quit talking to me altogether lol 😂 I guess the CAT got his tongue literally

Bye 👋🏽

Ladies don’t short yourself please if you not getting more than penis from a dude Let his ass go!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

There are 3 types of Irony

Verbal Irony-The use of words to mean something different than what they appear to mean.

Situational Irony- The difference between what is expected to happen and what actually happens

Dramatic Irony- When the audience is more aware of what is happening than the character

I call Men in my blog Omelets which is Verbal Irony..Because we all know men are not eggs 🥚 but they are good before breakfast 🍳

I’m so tired of Situational Irony and I say that with Hella quotations..I realize this is my fault because I only want a relationship that starts out great to actually continue to be great and never end..But that’s the Situation that’s been at hand

And the Irony of it all is that the guys I’m meeting already know their full of shit but they won’t own up to it and keep it real..So they waste my time with dragging something on with Dramatic Irony

The Irony of it All!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

Ingredients: Handsome, Smart, Dr. Jeckel And Mr Hide

The worst part about dating is finding out about the bad parts of a person that you know if you got into a serious relationship with them you would not be able to deal with those parts..

When I met this Omelet we had quite a lot in common he loved reading books, coffee, intellectual conversations, he wanted to also do a podcasts about relationships (that clearly he has no knowledge of) but then after several months he went into this dark space because he was in between jobs and he shut himself off completely and didn’t talk to me for days and then days turned into weeks..He would only text (I hate that)

I swear it was like he was on his period I never seen shit like that before..But for damn near a month tho..I’m in my prime so I remember going to his house randomly to do a mental health check and the whole time he just stared at the TV like i wasn’t even there and after leaving his house that night…I remember thinking as I was driving home this must be what it feels like when a guy wants sex with his girl and she giving him the cold shoulder and he can’t get none or like after pregnancy that six week wait..lol

I think the problem I had most is he was sulking and looking for sympathy because he was broke but he was perfectly capable of resolving it before the new job started but he chose not to..He could have got something temporary in between time..

I don’t feel sorry for people who are perfectly healthy and can figure out how to make money and I felt like the sulking was bullshit Nigga you are an Omelet not a Bear!!

It even made me wonder if he just couldn’t be in my presence because I’m a hell of a go getter and he felt emasculated by my Ambition in some way..

I was explaining to him that as a woman I have some really basic needs like Sausage, Time and Attention and he was acting like a Bitch like it was impossible to give any of that to me in his state of mind

Every time I had this discussion he would say you’re just like all the other women I know and I clearly let him know that if I’m like every other woman he knows he should do a self assessment because he was clearly the problem

I am not going to keep pouring into someone who can’t give simple things of a friendship back..

One Friday after having a heated discussion about this I realized that if this is his personality when shit gets hard then he wouldn’t be a strong enough partner for me in the future so you know what I said right? Omelethimgo!!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

There was a quote that I came across by Steve Harvey that was a reminder of what it is that I truly want for myself in a friendship and relationship and it said “ You could be the most perfect woman on the Lords green earth-your capable of interesting conversation,you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out back rubs like sandwiches, you’re independent-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he’s going to treat you like a Sports fish”

Naturally I had to dig deeper and find out what a Sports fish was and I found the definition is “A type of fish that is prized for the sport it gives the angler in its capture rather than for its value as food”

Damn..Never felt something so deep and it made me instantly evaluate myself as a person.

I need to focus on my “Grit” which means “firmness of character” because of my reputation for “Grit” and common sense

I write this to say even if something feels good, tastes good it’s not always good for you

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly