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R Kelly Everything was definitely WRONG!!

With the latest Docu-Series about R Kelly scrambling around in the pan with these under aged girls it caused me to write this..So much discussion is happening about this that I felt the need to post about it..First I want to say that so many people involved in failed these girls..Whether it be friends, family, executives, authorities they failed them and that is the problem that I have with this whole ordeal..They all came together on National TV to out him versus banning together and take use of their time to Lawyer up and take him down. Yes I’m aware that he is now under investigation it that didn’t happen until after the Docu-Series..Everyone keeps saying “We need to stand up for our girls now but no one stood up for them while they were dealing with this..There were women that spoke out previously, he married a girl underaged, he pissed on a girl and there is video..Not only should he be held accountable but those who didn’t “Stand up and fight for them” should be held accountable as well..

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

It has been a journey for me with dating but lately my only time I have had is to focus on myself,

It’s been almost 1 month since I moved back home to the Bay Area and I got here and took off running immediately..I interviewed with several companies before I left Las Vegas and now I’m working for an amazing company in San Francisco and I’m here with my Family and nothing could make me happier.

I haven’t even had time to focus on dating because it’s just not something I’m even thinking about. I haven’t been able to record because my mic is packed up in storage but I can’t wait to get time to get back to it..

As soon as I’m adjusted to my new job, commute and work schedule I will be back on air

In the meantime…In the words of Lil Duval I’m Living my best Life and I ain’t going back n forth with you N****s lol

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

It took me a long time to realize that I can’t please everybody

Sometimes in life we have to make hard choices and some of those include taking care of us even though someone else prefers us to be there for them

If you aren’t happy or feeling good yourself, you can’t be there for someone else in the way that they need you to be

A lot of people stay in relationships because they care about what the other person might feel when you’re ready to walk away.

All you’re doing when you do that is hurt yourself because you’re not happy.

The one thing I know about pain is it is always replaced with Joy. It may not be instant but it will eventually come.

So if you’re in a relationship and you’re miserable and you know that you’ve tried enough to make something work and you know that the only thing that will make it better is for you to end it.

Then End it and have no regrets! Life is too precious to be miserable everyday of your Life

In fact you will be doing each other a favor

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

I changed my phone number at the beginning of 2018 so that I could rid of my weakness of answering my phone or responding to a text when an ex is on my line..

I had stopped utilizing Facebook messenger but I can still get he alerts so this week a few of my ex Omelets decided to hop in my inbox and tell me how Bomb I was and that they still Loved me and missed me and they wanted to see me Jokers!

Isn’t it funny how when you minding your business, drinking water 💦 and getting Healthier, Mind, Body and Soul your exes wanna act like they never had this before??

This how you met me and then you broke me down with stress worrying about y’all sorry ass cracked shells..

I’ve decided that I will no longer let anyone take me there anymore and if I feel negative vibes in anyway from someone new I’m out ASAP 🏃🏽‍♀️ I’m not sticking around for the lies and excuses because I love ME too much

New Phone 📱 Who Dis?

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

One of the things I hate is a Man with no conversation. When all he knows how to talk about is how beautiful and sexy I am and if I was his, what he would do to me

It’s a big turn off! Especially when their newly single and you found out they’ve been in a relationship for years prior to. Like what y’all been doing just watching TV and making kids? That’s Boring as Fuck!

Like you don’t have no hobbies, goals, dreams, aspirations, thoughts on society or politics? Favorite sports team ? You don’t like to travel?

I don’t need someone to continually tell me how beautiful I am and I’m sexy I already know this. I want to be stimulated by conversation that makes it feel like you Fucking my mind!

Everyone has dick or head to give. Hell I can play with my own damn self

I wanna see something different, I wanna learn about some shit I didn’t know about before I gave you my number

I recently had this happen to me and when I told the dude to talk to me about something else he quit talking to me altogether lol 😂 I guess the CAT got his tongue literally

Bye 👋🏽

Ladies don’t short yourself please if you not getting more than penis from a dude Let his ass go!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

There are 3 types of Irony

Verbal Irony-The use of words to mean something different than what they appear to mean.

Situational Irony- The difference between what is expected to happen and what actually happens

Dramatic Irony- When the audience is more aware of what is happening than the character

I call Men in my blog Omelets which is Verbal Irony..Because we all know men are not eggs 🥚 but they are good before breakfast 🍳

I’m so tired of Situational Irony and I say that with Hella quotations..I realize this is my fault because I only want a relationship that starts out great to actually continue to be great and never end..But that’s the Situation that’s been at hand

And the Irony of it all is that the guys I’m meeting already know their full of shit but they won’t own up to it and keep it real..So they waste my time with dragging something on with Dramatic Irony

The Irony of it All!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

Ingredients: Handsome, Smart, Dr. Jeckel And Mr Hide

The worst part about dating is finding out about the bad parts of a person that you know if you got into a serious relationship with them you would not be able to deal with those parts..

When I met this Omelet we had quite a lot in common he loved reading books, coffee, intellectual conversations, he wanted to also do a podcasts about relationships (that clearly he has no knowledge of) but then after several months he went into this dark space because he was in between jobs and he shut himself off completely and didn’t talk to me for days and then days turned into weeks..He would only text (I hate that)

I swear it was like he was on his period I never seen shit like that before..But for damn near a month tho..I’m in my prime so I remember going to his house randomly to do a mental health check and the whole time he just stared at the TV like i wasn’t even there and after leaving his house that night…I remember thinking as I was driving home this must be what it feels like when a guy wants sex with his girl and she giving him the cold shoulder and he can’t get none or like after pregnancy that six week wait..lol

I think the problem I had most is he was sulking and looking for sympathy because he was broke but he was perfectly capable of resolving it before the new job started but he chose not to..He could have got something temporary in between time..

I don’t feel sorry for people who are perfectly healthy and can figure out how to make money and I felt like the sulking was bullshit Nigga you are an Omelet not a Bear!!

It even made me wonder if he just couldn’t be in my presence because I’m a hell of a go getter and he felt emasculated by my Ambition in some way..

I was explaining to him that as a woman I have some really basic needs like Sausage, Time and Attention and he was acting like a Bitch like it was impossible to give any of that to me in his state of mind

Every time I had this discussion he would say you’re just like all the other women I know and I clearly let him know that if I’m like every other woman he knows he should do a self assessment because he was clearly the problem

I am not going to keep pouring into someone who can’t give simple things of a friendship back..

One Friday after having a heated discussion about this I realized that if this is his personality when shit gets hard then he wouldn’t be a strong enough partner for me in the future so you know what I said right? Omelethimgo!!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

There was a quote that I came across by Steve Harvey that was a reminder of what it is that I truly want for myself in a friendship and relationship and it said “ You could be the most perfect woman on the Lords green earth-your capable of interesting conversation,you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out back rubs like sandwiches, you’re independent-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he’s going to treat you like a Sports fish”

Naturally I had to dig deeper and find out what a Sports fish was and I found the definition is “A type of fish that is prized for the sport it gives the angler in its capture rather than for its value as food”

Damn..Never felt something so deep and it made me instantly evaluate myself as a person.

I need to focus on my “Grit” which means “firmness of character” because of my reputation for “Grit” and common sense

I write this to say even if something feels good, tastes good it’s not always good for you

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

Too often do I hear women complain when their relationship is over about what they gave up because of a man

Referring to their dreams and goals

How do you get to a point where you lose yourself in the process of falling in love, marriage or dating?

I personally don’t want to be in a relationship where I am always in the shadow of the other person

I simply can’t and won’t give up my dream because someone else doesn’t want me to be fulfilled in my personal vision.

Lady Gaga said something that was very true “Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.

Take care of you first or you will regret it later

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly

What does that mean?

Not open to question, beyond doubt or dispute, indisputable, undeniable, certain

An unquestionable fact

Above criticism, unexceptional

A man of questionable principles

I want to discuss this today because I personally hold myself to a standard that no one has to question my character and I expect the same in return

If I have to question your character no matter how I feel about you ,my feelings will change and will change rather quickly

As I have dated and had these not so great experiences with men it has allowed me to pay attention to everything and question everything

If your words don’t match your actions then your character will be questioned

I’m super easy to please as long as your solid with me..When I feel that you aren’t solid with me then most likely Omelet you go!

Suppose you’re dating me and you express how you feel to me and I give you the impression with my words that we are on the same page and I’m digging you too but then the next day you see me entertaining another man…How would you feel?

Let’s be honest, If someone I’m dating literally just sent me a message that made me feel like I was the best thing since sliced bread and then I see them out with another woman or I see them commenting on other women’s photos how beautiful they are, I am no longer feeling like I’m the best thing since sliced bread because If I was, you wouldn’t have time to entertain another woman so everything you said to me just went out the door and at this point I’m going to question your character

At the end of the day those of us who want a “hard boiled egg” aka Solid relationship just want someone who is equally yoked

I personally don’t have time to entertain others when I’m dating someone because my schedule won’t allow it. I’m not going to make you feel special if you’re really not!

That’s the problem today with dating, people don’t know how to focus on one person at a time so they never get the opportunity to truly know what they want and they never get the opportunity to get to know the person they are dating so they miss the opportunity of being with a real “hard boiled egg”!

People that do this make me question their character..Period!

I say this to say, if you are dating multiple people or entertaining multiple men or women in your phone or dm’s, make sure everyone you’re involved with is clear on that. And I mean by having an actual conversation about it not just sneaking it in there after the fact because that’s not good communication! There’s nothing worse than allowing someone to catch feelings for you when you mean them no good..

I have repeatedly said this in many of my blogs “Don’t take someone’s choices away from them”!

Don’t make anyone question your character, be straight up with them!

Y.O.L.K.

You Only Live Knowingly