A Boss demands, commands, uses people and blames others. A boss in the relationship has nothing to show for and is unstable.
A Leader on the other hand asks, takes responsibility and shows how it’s done. A leader in the relationship has their own everything and offers stability.
I’ve been hearing a lot about black women not wanting to be submissive which is completely inaccurate.
The truth is women love being submissive to a man that knows how to lead. Women are exhausted from having to carry the load and want a man to provide security knowing that if anything happens he got us.
I was in a relationship in the past where the man was a Boss but he wasn’t Leader.
He talked a good game about what he wanted in his life and what he was gonna do but never took the steps necessary to make me feel secure by setting an example of being able to lead.
I was always the one that got shit done and as a woman I hated feeling like I was both the man and the woman in the relationship. Teamwork was definitely lacking.
He would ask for help with starting projects he was interested in but he never did the work to bring them to light. He demanded that I do all the work for the goals and passions he had of his own.
I stayed in the relationship because I believed I was doing the right thing by supporting him with his dreams and I didn’t want to be looked at by him as an unsupportive partner but after awhile I felt like all of my efforts were for nothing.
I am amazed at the number of women that exist that will settle for these types of men just to say they have a man. That’s just never been me I’d rather kiss a million frogs before I settle.
A word to Women, please love on yourself more and quit letting these suckas play with you!
Like I always say…
Y.O.L.K.
You only live knowingly
Omelethimgo 